The FasterEFT Way To Happiness
Be Nice To Yourself: A Therapist’s Perspective
Written by: Diana Rose Kottle, M.A., MFT – Jan 9, 2013
How to have a better life the EASY way
2013 is the year of healing and more love in your life! The key thing is TO BE NICE TO YOURSELF! Here are a few ways that Robert recommends to help you heal…
First, get a happy journal. This is a blank journal that you begin to fill with all your happy memories from your past and your future, one that makes you feel good, that you can travel with and that puts a smile on your face. You can include cards, photos, writing, or anything that puts a smile on your face in this journal. Write in positive affirmations; write in your goals and dreams. Anything that affirms what you want is something to include here. Write it as if you have already done it. Include things you are grateful for. Then rehearse these positive affirmations and memories over and over again. Include little GEMS, which are all things that are positive for you. Write down every positive memory and all the details of them. Pull your book out and read your journal to remind you how wonderful things are.
Make your peace journal. This is the opposite of the Happy Journal. Here you write down all things that have bothered you, tormented or affected you in a negative way, all the things that you want to clean up and change into peaceful and happy memories. Include all the things you hate or that upset you. Then, re-write the negative memory in your happy journal. Create something you’d like. Affirm the positive consciously and remember to affirm what you are grateful for.
It is so important to focus on the positive, however without ignoring or running from the negative. It is abusive to continue to hold onto your pain and carry it around with you. It is therapeutic and healthy to acknowledge and feel your pain, one last time, and then release and let it go! There is a great quote by the Buddha that says †œholding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent to throw it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.† So, make your peace journal and make your Happy Journal and let go of whatever it is that you are holding onto that is causing you distress. Learn to change your negative memories into positive memories and feelings of peace.
Make 2013 the year for you to heal and to be nice to yourself. When you are nice to yourself, you will be nice to other people. As you change you, you change the way you act in the world. Keep on tapping your way to peace!
Written by: Diana Rose Kottle, M.A., MFT