The FasterEFT Way To Happiness
Drug and Alcohol Addiction: A Therapist’s Perspective
Written by: Diana Rose Kottle, M.A., MFT – Oct 8, 2012
How Addictions work and how to change them
Every year Robert travels to an addiction rehabilitation center in Oahu, Hawaii called Habilitat. The Habilitat model of addictions is very similar to the FasterEFT model. At Habilitat they have something called the three positive R’s: remember, remove, and replace. This is just like the FasterEFT †˜A.R.T. of Change’ which is aim, release and transform. They then †˜flip the box’ which is parallel to the key of FasterEFT, which is †˜flipping the memory’. They do not operate from the disease model and have an extremely high success rate of breaking people from their old addictive patterns over the course of several years. This video is from his trip there in early 2010.
How and why are we addicted?
There is a common theme with people who have severe addictions. They have been through a lot of †˜stuff’ in their life and carry around a lot of residual pain from these experiences. Traumas, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, are all things that can feel extremely overwhelming and be difficult to deal with.
In many cases people are not really addicted, rather they just want to feel better, numb out, escape, relax, which are all very common themes in addiction. When they learn other coping mechanisms besides the drugs, alcohol, etc. the †˜addiction’ goes away.
The 12-Step Model
The †˜traditional psychology’ model of addictions is the 12-step model, which says that once an addict, always an addict and that you have a disease. According to this model you must admit that you are powerless over your addiction (the substance) and live the rest of your life without the substance 100%. Joining the group means you are now addicted to the group.
Robert does not believe in this model, which says you are addicted for life – which is like a death sentence – nor does he see addiction as a disease. According to Robert the good part of the 12 †“step model is the part about making peace with yourself and others. FasterEFT provides a beautifully expansive and freeing model with which to view the world of addictions as merely a roadblock on your path that once cleared, allows you to continue to your way.
The Structure of Addictions
In addictions people are running a program to escape. They want to run from the pain within themselves and divert their attention so that they can’t feel. This numbing out is really a way of trying to survive, in the best way that they know how. The painful feelings that are held within can literally feel life threatening. When we are experiencing this level of intensity and fear, it is a natural response to want to escape. Shopping addiction, television, smoking, sex, drugs, alcohol and food are all examples of ways people numb out and try to escape from the pain they hold inside. The real problems are the abuse, hurts, fears and your emotional attachments to the coping mechanisms (the thing you are addicted to). You have perfected avoiding your pain and now this is no longer working.
How do I heal
Clean out these issues that you hold inside yourself. Change what you are running from and make peace with it, so that when you go back to the source, the pain that you are trying to escape from is not there. Emotional intelligence is the key to this. Make peace with the old programs that you hold inside by aiming, releasing and transforming them with the FasterEFT tapping style.
When you take responsibility that everything you hold inside of yourself is you, you can change your patterns, habits and automatic responses to things from things that bring you pain to those that serve you and bring you peace and happiness. FasterEFT tapping is a way to quickly get to the root of these old †˜coping mechanisms’, let go of the pain, and replace these with new happy memories upon which to create and build a wonderful life.
If you are struggling with an addiction and need support, there are many qualified FasterEFT Practitioners who can help you with this.
Written by: Diana Rose Kottle, M.A., MFT