Do you find yourself thinking the worst when there are several possibilities – just in case. Perhaps, like many, you feel that if you’re expecting the worst then you’re prepared; and if it turns out to be better, you’ll be pleasantly surprised? Either way, you won’t be caught off guard. The problem is that this way of living is preventing you from enjoying the life you could be living. Expecting the worst is more than simply something you think – what you think affects your body and brain chemistry – which in turn affects your behavior, choices, decisions, actions, and everything else. And this has a knock-on effect on your relationships, health, finances, work, and all other areas of your life.
When you’re expecting the worst you will be focused in a different way to when you’re expecting the best. You will make different decisions; it will affect your communication with others; it will affect your willingness to take action; and it will affect your judgement. It will also affect your productivity, ability to see opportunities, and your problem-solving skills. Expecting the worst is not just a thought, it is a physiological state.
“But it Makes Sense!”
While it may seem logical to be prepared for the worst and then be pleasantly surprised if things work out better, that logic is based on belief not on reality. Through your life experiences, and possibly the experiences of those around you, your subconscious has built the core belief that it makes sense to expect the worst. This belief is accompanied by feelings that make it seem irrefutably real. In addition to this, your subconscious is under the impression that it is keeping you safe by adhering to this belief. In other words, that part of you believes that expecting the worst is essential in protecting you from harm.
It feels real, and it feels like you would be running a major risk if you were to expect the best instead of the worst. However, if you really want to improve your life and create the life experiences you want to have, you’ll need to suspend disbelief and open up to the possibility your belief is not real.
The first step is to consider the fact that not everything you believe is real – no matter how convincing your belief may be. And the only way to discover the truth is to take a look outside your belief system – just out of curiosity, consider the possibility that what you think you know is not true. You can use the FasterEFT process to help to clear away the limiting beliefs so that you can see more clearly.
How to Change Your Belief That Expecting the Worst is Beneficial
Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and think about what would happen if you expected the best. Feel the fear. Think back to previous times you’ve been proven right in this belief – when in your life have you had evidence that it is safer to expect the worst? Choose the memory that provides the most convincing proof for you. Notice how you know it’s true. See what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel what you felt. Notice what the feeling feels like, where in your body you feel it, and how strong it is.
Using two fingers, and now placing your focus on the feeling of your fingertips on your skin, gently tap the following meridian points while repeating the phrases. For more information on the phrases, read: What to Say When Tapping.
– Between your eyebrows – “I release and let this go”
– Beside your eye – “It’s okay to let this go now”
– Under your eye – “It’s no longer real, and it’s safe to let it go”
– Just below your collarbone – “I don’t need to hold onto this anymore and I’m safe as I’m letting it go”
Grab your wrist, take a deep breath, blow it out and say “Peace”, then go to a peaceful memory. Enjoy the feeling of that peaceful memory for a moment.
Now go back to the memory or thought that you focused on in Step One, and see what’s different. Has the memory changed in any way? Has the feeling changed? If so, how has it changed? If not, notice what is still there. Notice whatever is left.
Go back and repeat Steps Two through Four until you no longer feel the feeling that expecting the worst is a good idea. Keep repeating the process until you feel comfortable and safe expecting the best instead.
Do this process with each memory and thought you have that supports the idea that expecting the worst is your safest option. The truth is: you get what you focus on. Expecting the best will put your body and brain into an optimal physiological state – which will allow you to live up to your full potential. Sure, there will be some things that don’t work out the way you want them to – but you’ll find that the more you expect the best, the fewer disappointments you’ll end up experiencing.
Keys to Success in Using FasterEFT
Don’t stop the technique until you have completely flipped all negative to positive.
You may find that as you are tapping, memories and other thoughts come to you. When they do, notice them and keep tapping. Even those that may appear to have nothing to do with what you are addressing – if they’re coming up, it means your subconscious has linked them in some way – make sure you keep tapping until all of them have been flipped to positive.
Whenever you find yourself feeling anything other than good, use the FasterEFT technique to clear the negative feelings. Whenever you catch yourself making the choice to expect the worst, use FasterEFT right then in the moment to change that state until you are happy to expect the best instead. This will start to become your natural state.
For more information on how and why FasterEFT works, visit: The FasterEFT Belief System
For more guidance on using FasterEFT successfully, visit: Tips on Using FasterEFT
To find out more about FasterEFT and the Law of Attraction, read: How does FasterEFT Work with The Law of Attraction
To see FasterEFT in action, watch the FasterEFT in Action Playlist