It’s natural and human to believe that what we think is real, is real. There are several reasons for this – the feelings that are attached to the thoughts, combined with previous experience and the “evidence” we hold in our subconscious makes it unquestionably true.
However, the fact that everything we experience is filtered through the records from our previous experiences means it is far from reliable. Each of us is effectively experiencing the world through a unique filter – a filter that is made up of our own subconscious interpretation of the experiences we’ve lived so far. This means that there are no two people who are looking at the world in exactly the same way.
Every new experience is interpreted through the interpretations of all previous experiences, and given a meaning. That meaning is then filed in the subconscious as fact. As you can imagine, not all of these “facts” are necessarily true or real.
Here’s an example:
Kirstin and Jake
Kirstin and Jake are work colleagues in a busy clothing store. Kirstin is serving a customer who seems to be very unhappy with her purchase. Kirstin can see the customer is clearly difficult and angry, and will not accept the fact that there is nothing Kirstin can do to correct the problem.
She can hardly “magic up” an item that is not there. Why didn’t the woman try on the garment first, before buying it, then she would have been able to get the last one in a larger size. But now, they’re all sold out, so what does she want from Kirsten?
Kirstin is doing her best to remain calm and polite, but she can feel the stress hormones coursing through her body as anger and indignation rise in her. She feels that the customer is being unfair and unnecessarily rude.
Jake is standing next to Kirstin. Once both customers have left, Kirstin turns to Jake and says: “Can you believe that woman!” Jake doesn’t know what Kirstin is talking about. The customer seemed very polite to him. Sure, she was disappointed that she’d bought the wrong size and now the larger size was sold out, but that’s to be expected. He literally cannot see what Kirsten has seen – because he and Kirstin are looking through completely different filters.
Let’s take a brief look at the backgrounds of Jake and Kirstin to gain an understanding of how they could see the same incident with the same person so differently.
Jake grew up in a small town with his parents and two younger sisters. Life was relaxed and easy-going. The family didn’t have a lot of money, and his father worked hard to provide for them, but they were a happy family. His mother was warm and supportive, and he always felt loved and that his voice was heard.
Kirstin is the youngest of three, and grew up in the city. She had to fend for herself from the age of 10 years old since both her parents worked and were very seldom home. Her brother was also out of the house most of the time; and her sister, who is three years older than her, hated her. Kirsten’s sister, Jen was mean and suspicious; accusing Kirsten of stealing her make-up, ruining her clothes, and a range of other “crimes” of which Kirstin was completely innocent.
As they grew older, the relationship between the sisters became increasingly more tense. She had long given up trying to speak to her parents about it since they were too busy and expected the girls to “work it out” between them. The result of this experience was a core belief in Kirstin’s subconscious that people were always accusing her of things she hadn’t done; and that people and life were unfair. She continued to experience this in all of her relationships – personal and business.
The “Difficult” Customer
Jake was hearing and seeing the customer through the filters created from his own experience: that he is loved; people are inherently good; everyone is doing their best with what they have; and if there’s a problem, there must be some misunderstanding.
Kirstin was seeing and hearing the customer through her own subconscious filters – created from the experiences she’d lived so far: that everyone is accusing her of something; people are always trying to get something for nothing; everyone is selfish and only looking after their own best interests.
To each of these people, what they were seeing and hearing was completely real. It was obvious; and there was no other way it could be interpreted. The truth – what the customer was really feeling and thinking, and her real intentions, will only be known to her. Neither Kirstin nor Jake were necessarily “right” about their judgement of the situation – since neither of them can truly see through the customer’s filters, they can only assess and interpret the situation through their own, and they have no way of knowing what she really meant.
If asked, Kirstin would insist the woman was angry, unreasonable and rude; and Jake would be certain she was disappointed, but polite.
What we think and what we experience appears to be real. It appears to be unquestionably real and obvious, but only because we are looking through our unique filters – and feeling the matching feelings. The feelings are what make it seem so real. The feelings cause us to defend and justify our position, and to look back into the past and find evidence that what we’re thinking is true. However, the evidence and the feelings are only there because of our particular filters.
“One or Two” “Better or Worse”
The nature of human life means that we are all automatically wearing eyeglasses; and the lenses that are placed on these glasses are placed there automatically from birth onwards. However, once we come to realize that we have a choice in what lenses we wear, we have the option to change them using FasterEFT. FasterEFT works with the subconscious to change the original records that cause the results we’re experiencing in our lives. Change the records, and you change the result – automatically.
If you’ve been to an optician for new eyeglasses, you will have noticed that they place different lenses in front of your eyes to check which give you the clearest vision. They usually do this two at a time, and as they switch between them they ask you: “One… or two? One… or two?” or “Better or worse; better or worse?”
Imagine you’re testing your perspective in the same way. Think about something you believe to be true right now, but that makes you feel bad; and then think of something that you don’t believe to be true, but would make you feel better if it was. Then ask yourself while switching between them: “One… or two?” and “Better, or worse?”
Just as you would pick optical lenses based on being able to see more clearly; choose your perspective based on what feels better. Don’t worry about the fact that the new perspective doesn’t seem real – that’s what FasterEFT is for. For now, simply choose to change it.
How to Change Your Lenses
Now that we know that regardless of how real something may seem, it’s only real because we’re looking through our particular set of lenses and feeling the matching feelings, it’s time to look at how to change those lenses. When you change the lenses, the new perspective will seem as real as the old one did – because it’s all about the lenses.
Think about what bothers you, but you know to be true. No matter how real and true it seems, if it bothers you, it makes sense to change it. Notice how you know it’s true.
Notice how you feel, where in your body you feel the feeling, and how strong that feeling is. Then use the FasterEFT process to flip that feeling and any memories that come up.
You can find the guide on how to use FasterEFT here: The FasterEFT Technique – Step-by-Step. Make sure that you not only clear the feeling, but that you flip the memories. To find out more about how and why, read: Why do We Flip Memories in FasterEFT. It is essential to flip the memory in order to get effective, lasting results.
Once you have changed those records, you will naturally see clearly that your new perspective is the truth. Change your filters, and you change your reality.
For more information on FasterEFT visit: The FasterEFT System.
Watch the founder of FasterEFT, Robert G. Smith explain how it works, and see him demonstrating it on others in the videos on the FasterEFT YouTube Channel.