Do you find that you are constantly being emotionally affected by people who seem to be doing it deliberately? Do you frequently feel you have no choice but to do things you don’t want to do, or in other ways go against your own instincts, values or wishes because of the pressure someone else puts on you emotionally? The great news is: If you want to end those feelings of being manipulated, there is a way to free yourself emotionally – forever.
There is a way to take the controls of your own life and emotions, make your own decisions and choices, and no longer feel obliged to please others – and all without feeling guilty! Sound good? Keep reading…
What is Emotional Manipulation?
From the person on the receiving end, emotional manipulation means being made to feel bad if they don’t comply to someone else’s will. From the person dishing it out, it may not seem like emotional manipulation; to that person it may be simply a case of doing what they can to get what they want, without the realization of the effects on the other person.
On the other hand, they may well be doing it deliberately and in full knowledge because they’ve found that it’s worked effectively in the past. Either way, there’s a very different perspective that will help to free you, if you’re willing to do what it takes.
The Truth about Your Emotions
Your emotions are inside you. The sensations you feel are the physiological changes that cause the feelings we recognize as emotions. Whatever your mind does, your body follows. This means that you can take control of these sensations – regardless of what those around you are doing or saying. It takes some practice, and you will need to clean out the subconscious programming that is causing your automatic responses; but once you’ve done that, it becomes automatic.
No-one outside of yourself can affect the way you feel without your cooperation. Naturally, at the moment, your emotions are happening automatically and without your conscious cooperation – and this is because they are based on subconscious programming. Right now, you have no conscious control over how you feel – but there is a way you can make the changes that will give you that control. Naturally and permanently.
Once you are in control of your own emotions, attempts by others to emotionally manipulate you will be completely ineffective. The key emotions that make emotional manipulation work are: guilt and fear. Without guilt and without fear, emotional manipulation won’t work. If someone doesn’t feel fear or guilt, there is no way to manipulate them.
So, how do you get rid of your guilt and fear?
The First Step
The first, and most important, step in taking control of your own emotions – and your own life – is to realize and accept that each person is responsible for their own emotions.
Whether they know it or not, each individual is the only one who can control how they feel. You can’t make someone else feel something unless they cooperate – consciously or unconsciously. In order to free yourself from emotional manipulation, you need to take the wheel.
You need to start by making the decision to take over the controls of your own brain and body, and take full responsibility for how you feel.
The Second Step
You will need to address the reasons you feel guilt and fear – not the reasons given to you by the person doing the manipulating, but the original reasons, from your past.
How Does it Work?
From birth, we are all recording experiences. The subconscious mind interprets everything we experience (what we witness and what we’re told as well as personal experiences) and the subconscious files that data for future reference.
The subconscious is then constantly referring to the data it holds to determine how we should react and respond to what we continue to experience.
This means that the way you respond to someone who is trying to manipulate you emotionally is based on the records you hold in your subconscious that dictate that that’s the way you should respond. Change those records, and you change your automatic response. Change those records, and you no longer feel guilt or fear.
How to Change the Records
Think of the last time you felt you were being emotionally manipulated (or your current experience of it), and notice how you feel. Pay attention to the sensations in your body – where do you feel them, what do they feel like, and how strong are they?
Then, take a deep breath, close your eyes, and go back to your earliest memory of feeling this same feeling. It may not have anything to do with being emotionally manipulated; it may be something entirely different. Whatever the memory, as long as it has a similar feeling and it has come up for you, it means your subconscious has connected it as part of the structure of the problem of being manipulated. For more information on how this works, read: What Determines Your Character and Personality and The REAL Cause of All Your Problems.
Now, as you notice the details of that memory – see what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel what you felt – start using the FasterEFT process to clear and change what you’re holding. You will find a step-by-step guide here: The FasterEFT Technique – Step-by-Step. Follow that guide, and keep repeating the process until you not only no longer feel whatever bad feelings were in that memory to begin with, but the memory itself has completely flipped. For more information on how and why to flip a memory, read: Why do We Flip Memories in FasterEFT.
Once you have flipped any memories connected to the feelings you feel when you are feeling emotionally manipulated, it is important to maintain your new, healthy state of mind.
You can do this by using the FasterEFT technique in the moment whenever you feel you are being manipulated again. You can use the Mental Tapping technique if there are people around you and you can’t tap physically.
Whatever you do, make sure you tap out those bad feelings until they’ve flipped.
There is now no reason to ever feel emotionally manipulated again. No matter what anyone else does or says, it cannot affect you if you’ve changed the references inside yourself that caused you to respond to it. In addition to this, nothing can affect you if you use the FasterEFT technique to tap it out in the moment (even if it’s just mental tapping – that works as well).
You are now armed with the ultimate defense against emotional manipulation.
Go enjoy your new freedom!
For more information on how and why FasterEFT works, visit: The FasterEFT System.
To see FasterEFT in action, watch the videos in the FasterEFT in Action Playlist.