When you don’t want something in your life – whether it’s a person’s behavior that’s bothering you, or a financial problem, health issue, or any other problem that you don’t want – by thinking about it you are actively creating the experience of having it. Even if it isn’t physically present in your life, you are creating the experience of it for yourself by focusing on it.
What your mind thinks, your body follows, and your body does not know the difference between reality and imagination. If you think of something that upsets or scares you, you’ll notice that you start to feel upset or frightened. This is because your body starts to produce the chemicals that cause the sensations of those emotions, automatically – in response to your thoughts.
If You Don’t Want it, Don’t Hold Onto it
You may not want rude people in your life; however, by thinking about how rude people can be, you are feeling the feelings – and therefore, creating the experience of having encounters with rude people, all by yourself. If you don’t want rude people in your life, remove whatever it is that bothers you about people who are rude. Remove the cause inside yourself, and you will find you no longer experience rude people – because you’ve changed that filter inside you.
If you’re scared of terrorist attacks, by thinking about them, you are creating the experience for yourself. You may never experience an attack physically, but as far as your brain and body are concerned, you are already experiencing those attacks because you are feeling the fear. As long as you think about something, you are holding onto it – keeping it in your experience.
The way to stop experiencing it is to choose to let it go. Thinking about it is the equivalent of literally holding onto a cactus and complaining that it’s hurting. Let go of it, and remove the spines, and it will stop hurting.
How to Let it Go
When you’re focused on how much you don’t want something, it can be difficult to see past that; and the reason is because the emotions can be overwhelming. The stress chemicals that are produced when you feel angry, sad, frustrated, indignant, frightened – and any other negative emotion – are extremely powerful because they’re part of the fight or flight response, which is of course all about survival.
The fact that these chemicals are designed to override everything else (in order to make sure we take the necessary action to survive) it can be very difficult to get past that emotional state. However, you can use FasterEFT to break that trance and get back on track – to let go of that cactus and focus on what you do want.
Whatever it is you don’t want in your life, take a moment to think about it now and feel the feeling for the last time. Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and notice how you feel as you think about how much you don’t want this thing. Then use the FasterEFT technique to tap out that feeling. Keep repeating the process until the feeling has gone completely and any memories and thoughts around it have flipped to positive. Make sure you don’t stop until you have completely flipped it.
From now on, whenever you find yourself thinking about how much you don’t want a particular experience in your life, use the FasterEFT process to tap it out. If you’re with other people, or you’re doing something that means you can’t tap physically, use Mental Tapping. Do this each time you catch yourself focusing on what you don’t want, and you will be amazed at the transformations in all areas of your life.
If you don’t want it, let it go!
FasterEFT founder, Robert G. Smith answers an important question about letting go:
For more details on how and why FasterEFT works, visit: The FasterEFT System.
For a step-by-step guide on how to use FasterEFT, read: The FasterEFT Technique – Step-by-Step.
To see FasterEFT demonstrated on others, watch the videos in the FasterEFT in Action Playlist.