It’s natural and human to want to know the reason behind challenges. Why am I so shy? Why aren’t I more confident? Why don’t people like me? Why do I keep picking partners who betray me?
Why is the world so screwed up? Asking “Why?” can be useful in certain circumstances – for example: why is my car making a squeaking noise?
Or why is there a weird smell coming from the kitchen? However, asking why you have problems can be dangerous. Why? Because it can give you a reason to continue to produce them.
What Happens When You Ask Why?
Many people believe that asking why is important because it leads to finding answers. It questions and challenges; and it helps inquiring minds find solutions. However, this old belief in the question “Why?” can actually be a way of keeping the problem.
When you ask why something is the way it is, the answer can give you a reason to keep the problem – which can delay, and even prevent, change and transformation.
Why have I got so little confidence? A possible answer: Because I was a shy child, and the other kids made fun of me at school. This answer to the question can cause an acceptance that distracts from change and transformation. A person who has justification and good reason for the problems they have, has a foundation that supports keeping the problem.
Asking why people are so rude is a way of confirming and accepting that people are rude. The truth is, people are only rude when you are perceiving them to be rude.
Suggested reading on this is It’s All About Perception.
Dianne seems to always choose men who cheat on her. Every relationship she’s had has brought pain and betrayal to her. She’s asked herself many times, exasperated:
“Why do men always treat me like this?”
“Why can’t I be attracted to nice guys?”
“Why do I always end up with cheaters?”
The answers she came up with included: “My father cheated on my mother over and over.” “I have poor judgement of character.” and “I just seem to find good guys boring.” The result? Dianne resigns herself to the fact that there are solid, logical reasons why she always ends up with men who will cheat on her – and she finds ways to live with that fact.
By giving those validations, she justifies the problem, and confirms that it “is the way it is.”
FasterEFT Discourages Asking “Why?”
Although it can be tempting to find reasons for your problems, the way to empower yourself to make the changes you want to see in your life is to understand (and keep reminding yourself) that there is only one cause for all of your problems.
The data you hold in your subconscious is the sole cause of your problems. No matter what is going on around you, the reason anything is a problem is because you have the structure in your subconscious to support it as a problem.
A really good material for further reading is The REAL Cause of All Your Problems.
Instead of asking (and trying to find out) why, focus on changing the original cause. Using FasterEFT to change the original records in your subconscious that are causing the problem will give you the answers and transformations you’re looking for.
Pick something you wish was different; then use the FasterEFT Technique to address it. Keep going until you flip it. By choosing to do this instead of trying to find the answers to “Why?” you will be choosing the direct route to transformation instead of being distracted and going on endless detours that keep your problems in place.
For more information on how this works, read: What Determines Character and Personality and How to Change Your Reality.
For detailed guidance on using FasterEFT read: The FasterEFT Technique – Step-by-Step.
To listen to Robert G. Smith (founder of FasterEFT) explain how the mind works, visit the FasterEFT YouTube Channel.
Article by: Robert G. Smith