We’ve all heard that we should be good to ourselves, but how do you do that? What does it mean? Does “being good to yourself” mean you should give yourself a break? Treat yourself the way you treat those in your life you love? Does it mean give in to all of your desires and cravings, or let yourself off work?
Does it mean staying in bed all day when you feel like it? Or does it mean forcing yourself to go to the gym at 6am because it’s good for you; or working extra hours to get the money you need for that vacation? For most people there are a lot of conflicting thoughts and feelings around “being good to” themselves.
Here is a concise, easy-to-follow, step-by-step guide to changing your life through being good to yourself – the easy way!
What is “Being Good to Yourself”?
Being good to yourself means treating yourself as you would someone you value highly. Most of us are raised with varying degrees of discipline, criticism and judgement; and we tend to take over from where those who raised us left off. We have a tendency to treat ourselves as badly, or worse, than those who had a negative impact on our lives early on.
Being good to yourself means:
- Making choices that are good for your well-being
- Treating yourself kindly
- Speaking of yourself in a kind, compassionate way
- Doing things that make you happy and healthy
- Spending time on things that feel good
- Changing all of the bad memories you’re carrying in your subconscious, so that you are only carrying happy records, providing evidence that you deserve the best
How to be Good to Yourself – Step-by-Step
The reason you are not already good to yourself is because of the automatic subconscious programming that is running in the background of your life constantly. To find out more about this programming, how it’s created and how it works, read: The REAL Cause of All Your Problems.
In order to naturally treat yourself better, without effort, you need to change the records your subconscious is referring to, that are prompting your current actions, choices and perspectives.
Make the decision to treat yourself with kindness, compassion and the same respect you would show someone you love and value.
Address any resistance to this decision by using FasterEFT to flip the “proof” your subconscious is carrying that you shouldn’t treat yourself well. Use the FasterEFT technique to address your bad memories and experiences, to clean out everything that is contaminating your happiness.
Use the FasterEFT technique in the moment to clear and change the habits that cause you to treat yourself badly. Start to become aware of what you’re thinking and feeling in the moment, and tap on anything and everything that comes up that feels bad or that you know is bad for you.
Notice the language you’re using about yourself and to yourself, and tap out the thoughts and feelings behind it and any memories that support it. Notice the choices you’re making regarding your health, and tap out any detrimental habits such as over-eating and smoking. Use FasterEFT to transform any resistance to healthy choices (like exercise and healthy food) to natural desires.
The aim is to change your current programming to allow you to naturally and automatically make better choices for yourself – without needing to force yourself or use willpower.
Making the choice to be good to yourself is an important step. Using FasterEFT to clear the programming that has been preventing you from being good to yourself so far is essential in order to achieve that goal easily and automatically.
For more information on changing your life using FasterEFT read: How to Change Your Reality.
For more detailed guidance in using FasterEFT read: The FasterEFT Technique – Step-by-Step.
To watch videos on FasterEFT visit the FasterEFT YouTube Channel.
Article by: Robert G. Smith