Although the fear of rejection can be debilitating, there is a way of getting rid of it permanently and effectively. You will probably have already found that conscious reasoning, logic and reassurance do very little to reduce the fear. This is because what you are feeling is an automated reaction rather than a response to real danger. Your subconscious is currently referring to data it holds that provides “proof” that rejection is a threat to your very existence. It is then prompting your brain to trigger the fight, freeze or flight emergency state in order to keep you safe. To get rid of the fear, you need to change that “proof”.
FasterEFT is designed to access the records that the subconscious is referring to, and change them so that they are more productive and support your conscious desires rather than working against them. To find out more about what the fear of rejection is and what causes it read: How to Get Rid of the Fear of Rejection.
The Steps to Getting Rid of the Fear of Rejection using FasterEFT
Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and go to a memory you have of being rejected. Find your earliest memory if you can. If you don’t have a specific memory of experiencing rejection, go to a time when you’ve felt the fear of rejection. Focus on the feeling. Notice what the sensation feels like, where in your body you feel it, and how strong it is.
Using two fingers, gently tap the following meridian points while focusing on the feeling of your fingers on your skin and saying the phrases.
– Between your eyebrows – I release and let this go now
– Beside your eye – It’s okay to let it go now
– Under your eye – I don’t need it anymore, and it’s safe to let it go now
– Just below your collarbone – That’s right, just let it all go; and I’m safe as I’m letting it go now
Grab your wrist, take a deep breath, blow it out, and say “Peace”. Go to a peaceful memory and enjoy the feeling of that for a moment.
Now, think about the rejection again; and notice what’s different. Notice if the fear has changed in any way. Notice any sensations in your body. Notice any other thoughts or memories that may come up. Just notice what’s still there.
Go back and repeat Steps Two through Four until the fear has completely gone, and any memories of being rejected have flipped. This means that your memories of being rejected have changed to feelings of being accepted – the action in the memories will change as you keep tapping. Don’t stop until the memory has completely changed from rejection to love and appreciation.
The Key to Success
Do not stop until there is no trace of the fear at all. Test yourself by thinking about a situation where you may be rejected. And at the first sign of fear, repeat Steps Two through Four each time you feel any fear at all. This is how you will clean it up completely.
Think of it like weeding a garden – if you leave any of it behind it will grow back. So you need to make sure that you keep tapping until there is no trace of fear at all, no matter how much you try to make it come back by thinking about being rejected.
To find out more about how FasterEFT works visit: The FasterEFT Belief System.
For more guidance on using FasterEFT visit: Tips on Using FasterEFT.
To see FasterEFT work on other people’s phobias, watch the videos in the FasterEFT Fears and Phobias Playlist.