Do you find that people are always letting you down? It can be very frustrating and hurtful. The great news is: there is a way to break this pattern. There is a way you can protect yourself from ever being let down by anyone ever again! All it takes is a decision to take control; a change of perspective; and the willingness to do what it takes to make permanent changes. If you are prepared to do this, you will be free from the pain of being let down – forever.
Why do People Let You Down?
The first step in making the changes is to take a look, with an open mind, at the reasons people let you down. Not everyone experiences the pain of being let down – especially not on a regular basis – so, what makes some people more vulnerable to it than others?
You may guess that you’re too soft, or that you trust people too much. You may think the reason is that you are in a position where you’re forced to rely on others more than most people. The truth is that these factors are simply branches of a tree with deep roots. It is the roots themselves that hold the answers.
The Real Reason People Let You Down
The reason you experience people letting you down is because there is a record held in your subconscious that being let down is a normal state. This may sound absurd at first, but keep reading and it will make sense. From birth, the human subconscious is constantly interpreting experiences and filing the records as proof of what the world is and how it works. This is how we learn to be in the world. It’s how we learn who we are; it’s how we learn about those around us; and it’s how we learn to survive in our environment – whatever that may be.
As we continue to experience life, the subconscious is continually referring to the records it holds – the evidence of our reality, our truth – and prompting the body and the conscious mind to respond accordingly. This process is so well designed that the conscious mind is completely unaware of it and so it seems to us that we are making decisions based on our own free will, reason and logic. The truth is we are following subtle cues from the subconscious via the body and brain. The conscious mind then adds logic and reason to give meaning to those cues.
For example, if you had the experience of feeling let down by someone close to you when you were very young, depending on the intensity of the emotions at the time and a range of other factors, your subconscious may have interpreted the experience as a “feature” of reality. It would then have filed that interpretation as “proof” that people let you down. It’s the way the world is.
From then on, your subconscious would be guiding you to tailor your decisions, the action you take, and your communication to keep you in alignment with that “truth”. Your conscious mind will be completely unaware of this; and will only experience the reality. Your subconscious will prompt your brain to signal your organs to produce the chemicals that will make you feel certain emotions and sensations – which your conscious mind will give meaning to and cause you to act accordingly.
Here’s an example of how it works:
Someone promises to help you with something. You are wary because they’ve let you down before. Your conscious mind is inclined to avoid relying on them – to either refuse the help, or to make a back-up plan in case they fail to follow through (again). Your subconscious picks this up as a deviation from the “reality” it holds “proof” of. In order to keep you in alignment with what is recorded as your truth, your subconscious will prompt your brain to signal your organs to produce certain chemicals.
These may be the chemicals that produce fear or anxiety – causing your conscious mind to reason that you have to rely on this person as there is no-one else and you have no choice. Bearing in mind the stress state of fear and anxiety hinders cognitive thinking – which means there may well be other options, but you won’t be able to see them in this state. This is the cleverness of the system – one of the ways the subconscious is able to keep you from making that change from the “truth”.
The chemicals may be those that produce a feeling of love and trust when you think of the person – causing you to believe that they will come through this time. Your conscious mind will think you are choosing to trust them because you feel they are trust-worthy or that they have changed. The truth is, your subconscious is causing that reaction to prompt you to make the decisions that will lead you back into the situation of being let down, in order to keep you in alignment with the “reality” it holds – that people let you down.
The great news is that while you can’t do anything to change other people, you can make changes to the records in your subconscious. This means you do not need to rely on others to change – instead, you can end your experiences of being let down by changing the record that your subconscious holds as “proof” that people always let you down. This givesyou the power, rather than being at the mercy of others. You’re the boss! You just need to learn how to take control – and then, of course, take the action.
How to Change the Record
Using FasterEFT you can make changes to core subconscious records quickly and effectively. It takes just a little time and the determination to do what it takes to make the changes that will set you free.
Think about the first time you remember being let down by someone. If you can’t remember the very first time, that’s okay, just think back to the earliest memory you can recall. Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and remember that experience. See what you saw, hear what you heard, feel what you felt. Notice what the feeling feels like. Notice where in your body you feel it, and how strong it is.
Using two fingers, and focusing on the feeling of your fingertips on your skin, tap the following meridian points while saying the phrases:
– Between your eyebrows – I release and let it go
– Beside your eye – It’s okay to let this go now
– Under your eye – It’s safe to let this go now
– Just below your collarbone – I don’t need it anymore and I’m safe as I’m letting it go now
Grab your wrist, take a deep breath, blow it out, and say “Peace”. Now, go to a peaceful memory and enjoy the feeling of that for a moment.
Go back to the memory of being let down, and notice what’s different. Has it changed in any way? Is the feeling less intense? Are the colors of the memory different? Is there any change to what is being said? Just notice what still remains.
Repeat Steps Two through Four until the feeling and memory have completely changed. Keep repeating it until you find that the feeling of being let down (and any other negative feeling) has gone completely and you now feel good instead – feelings of peace, love, gratitude, excitement or anything else that feels good. The memory also needs to have flipped before you stop. To find out more about this, read: Why do We Flip Memories in FasterEFT?
You may find that other memories and thoughts come to you while you’re going through the process – use the same technique on them. Any thoughts or memories that come to you as you go through this will be connected in some way within your subconscious. Even though they may seem to have nothing to do with being let down, if they’re coming up it’s because the subconscious has connected them in some way. So be sure to use the technique until you’ve flipped them too.
The Keys to Success
* It is essential that you don’t stop until all bad feelings have changed to good feelings, and all memories have flipped completely.
* Continue to use the technique on an ongoing basis to keep clearing anything that bothers you. When you start to feel the feelings of being let down, make sure you tap them out in the moment – you can use Mental Tapping if you are in public or can’t physically tap for some other reason. Remember, if you go to the dentist to have your teeth fixed, it doesn’t mean you never have to brush them again. FasterEFT tapping is the same – you need to maintain your emotional health on an ongoing basis, just like brushing your teeth.
* If you find you are struggling with the process or seem to be stuck, read: What You Need to Know about Resistance. Don’t give up! It will work – just as it’s working for so many others – you may just need a little more guidance or help. Read more of the articles and watch the videos if you are stuck.
For more detailed information on how and why the FasterEFT technique works visit: The FasterEFT Belief System.
For more guidance on using the technique visit: Tips on Using FasterEFT.
To see others benefiting from the technique, watch the videos in the FasterEFT in Action Playlist.