We’re taught to feel guilty (some of us more than others!) as we grow up. And feeling guilty is a way in which we’re taught responsibility. It’s a way that those who raised us try to make sure we know when we’re wrong. Then, as adults, we continue to keep ourselves in line using guilt. We take over from where “they” left off, and continue to make ourselves feel guilty out of habit. In theory, guilt seems like it could be a useful tool. However, let’s compare the pros and cons to find out just how useful or harmful it can be.
I’ll never do it again!
One of the benefits many people see in guilt is that it prevents them from doing whatever it is they feel guilty about again. But does it? Have you ever decided to give up a bad habit, and then slipped up and given in? Have you noticed that if you feel guilty about it, you are far weaker when you try to resist it next time?
Studies have shown that when people feel guilty about failing at something, they are more likely to fail in the future. In fact, these studies have shown that when people beat themselves up over failure, they are more likely to fail bigger next time. When they are more forgiving of themselves, they are stronger in future situations.
Feeling guilty makes us weak. It affects our cognitive thinking; and we are not able to think as clearly and rationally while we are feeling guilty as we do when we are not feeling guilty. Holding on to guilt increases your chances of making the same (or worse) mistakes in the future, not the other way around.
It’s the Right Thing
Some people don’t want to let go of guilt because they feel they deserve to feel guilty. And that’s one way of looking at it. The question is: does it help to correct or improve the situation? You could go out in shorts and sandals in a snow storm because it’s supposed to be summer, and that’s the right way to dress at this time of year. The fact is, though, it’s snowing – and no matter how right you may be, you will freeze. There’s a big difference in sticking to something because there’s a part of you that believes it’s “the right thing” and making your choices based on the results you want to achieve.
It is a choice. It is your choice – even though it doesn’t feel like it sometimes. Choosing to keep beating yourself up because you believe you deserve it will keep you in a state of suffering; choosing to let go and forgive yourself will help you to achieve freedom and the life you desire. Since your subconscious has been programmed to believe in guilt, it will feel very real to you. This is where you need to take a leap of faith to let it go. Think back to other times in your life when something seemed so true or real; and, after taking a leap of faith you discovered the belief you had was not reality at all.
Guilt makes you weak. Guilt is a stress state; and it causes the body to produce a cocktail of stress chemicals as well as shutting down or minimizing various functions as part of the physiological state of fight, freeze or flight.
Guilt makes you physically weaker. It affects your whole body, including your muscles. Trying to lift a heavy weight is a lot more difficult when you are feeling guilty than it is when you are not feeling guilty.
When you are feeling guilty, you are emotionally weaker – you will find it more difficult to control your emotions when you are feeling guilty. You will be more susceptible to feeling hurt, anger, resentment, frustration, fear and other negative emotions when you are carrying guilt than when you are guilt-free.
Since guilt is a stress emotion, one of the physiological results of feeling guilty is that the prefrontal cortex of the brain becomes less active. This is where we do our cognitive thinking and problem solving. The activity in this area of the brain minimizes because in nature, it is not needed in an emergency fight, freeze or flight situation. This means you are not thinking clearly, and you are not able to see all of the possible solutions and opportunities you would if you were not carrying guilt.
Feeling guilty – about anything, whether it is connected to your relationships or not – will affect your ability to maintain healthy relationships. Because it affects your prefrontal cortex, it affects your ability to communicate and interact rationally with others. It also affects your ability to be loving and compassionate in the way you would be without it.
What Would Happen if You Let Go of the Guilt?
There is a concern that letting go of guilt means condoning whatever it is that has caused the guilt. For example, if you hurt someone you love, and you let go of feeling guilty about it, does that mean you are okay with the fact that you hurt them? The truth is: letting go of the guilt allows you to move forward and start being who you would rather be. It allows you to feel kind, compassionate and genuinely loving. It allows you to make amends from a place of love rather than from a place of guilt.
Guilt is a dark emotion while compassion and love are light emotions. Replacing the feelings of guilt with love and compassion will be infinitely more effective, healing and productive for you and everyone else involved than carrying guilt.
Everyone wants to be loved. Genuine unconditional love is the Holy Grail every person is seeking (whether they realize that consciously or not). Choosing to let go of your guilt and replace it with unconditional love is the real antidote to anything for which you may be feeling guilty. However, you can’t feel unconditional love and guilt at the same time. You need to put down the guilt to pick up the love. Using FasterEFT is the fastest, most effective way to clear guilt because it changes the subconscious record that guilt is based on.
How to Let it Go
Reasoning away your guilt is usually fairly ineffective (you may have already tried this). The reason it isn’t effective is because your subconscious is referencing records and memories that support the fact that feeling guilty is good. Changing those memories and records is the way to change the guilt at its source, and to replace it with love. Use thehttps://fastereft.com/the-fastereft-technique-step-by-step/ to let go of the guilt and move forward with love.