Relationships
"Everybody was SUPPORTIVE."
START WITH YOU. THE RIGHT KIND OF LOVE WILL FOLLOW.
"Why do I keep doing the same thing in every relationship?" "How do I keep encountering the same people repeatedly and gaining nothing from it?" "When will I meet someone who is truly right for me?" "We've attempted couples therapy, and it doesn't seem effective for us."
We often have a tendency to attribute our negative feelings to others, using phrases like "you," "they," "he," or "she" and claim that they are causing us to feel bad. They might make us experience loneliness or worthlessness. Even if you've recognized how you repeat these patterns and have taken responsibility for your role in these situations, it can still be exceptionally challenging to change your behavior.
You might find yourself thinking, "They are correct. I need to improve my communication, I should be more responsible, and I should share the same goals as they do." However, the reality may be that you don't, or they don't, and you both continue to go around in circles without reaching a common ground.
The straightforward solution to this dilemma is to examine yourself and your relationship with these memories and initiate a change in that regard.